MOVE 76 · DE-ESCALATION & REPAIR · PRO
Invite Their Version
Ask the other side to describe the situation from their perspective before presenting yours, so you understand the conflict before trying to resolve it.
Every conflict has at least two accurate stories; solving it requires both.
Low riskWorkplace conflictRelationship repairDifficult conversationResolve conflictRecover the relationshipGet clarity
WHY IT WORKS
Each side in a conflict usually has a coherent account in which they acted reasonably. Inviting their version first shows respect, surfaces information you lacked and makes them more willing to hear yours. Solutions built on both accounts tend to hold.
WHEN TO USE IT
- A disagreement has hardened into opposing positions.
- You suspect you are missing part of the picture.
WHEN NOT TO USE IT
- The facts are clear and the other side's version would be a stalling tactic.
- There is a power imbalance where your invitation would put them at risk.
SIGNALS IT FITS
- Both sides describe the other as unreasonable.
- Conversations repeat the same arguments.
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ETHICAL BOUNDARY
Invite their view sincerely, and protect confidences shared in the conversation.
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